Friday , 31 October 2014

The Mamifesto!

I thought of this blog the minute I wrote  my tagline one year ago today.  I toyed with it but never actually started putting finger to keyboard until a few months ago.  Tonight, after a playdate with the frog princess the last of it spilled out of me easily and without much trouble, kinda like her farts.

A year ago today, I sat on my couch and looked through this thing called WordPress for a template I liked.  I had watched the movie Motherhood the Saturday prior and it had inspired me to finally create a blog (if you haven’t caught the movie, check it out, you’ll love it too).  I posted my first blog a few minutes after midnight so, I guess that means my official blogoversary is 9/29.  I’m not sure if I’ll make it to midnight tonight.

So, here it is.  A year in the making! Thank you for all of your love and support.  T-shirts will be coming shortly (let me know in the comments if you’d like to purchase and what size you’d like so I get an idea of how many to order).  One will read: The Mamifesto and the other will read: Welcome to the ‘Hood!  I look forward to many more years of having the privilege to write for you.  Will you sign The Mamihood’s Declaration of Independence?

When in the course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the mami cliques which have connected them with another, and to assume among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the laws of mamihood and of God entitle them, a descent respect to the opinions of other mamis requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation.
We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all mamis are not created equal, though we, at heart, are all the same.  That we are endowed by our Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Maminess.
That to secure these rights, friendships are instituted among women, deriving their just powers from the consent of the mami’d.  That whenever any form of maminess becomes destructive of these ends, it is the right of other mamis to remind, support, nurture, understand, love one another and occasionally, kick each other in the ass for the betterment of our own future.
We have inalienable rights regardless of race, creed, color, marital or job status.  Among them are:
  • To not feel guilty when we are at work because we are not with our children
  • To  not feel guilty when we are at home because we are not at work
  • To be okay with the house looking a mess because our children won’t remember a clean kitchen but will appreciate our undying love
  • To be okay with our friends who have perfect houses and not try to get to the deep down secret of how they do it all (because we are all guessing it’s a maid)
  • To cut ourselves some slack when we have to run through the drive thru (yes, I want to feed the child organic food too but, sometimes it can’t be helped)
  • To not fret over having to sit the kid(s) down in front of the television when we have to make a phone call/answer an email/tweet/blog/poop or call our girlfriend to cry on the phone about what big failures we are
  • To not criticize or judge stay at home mamis because sometimes they work even harder at home as there is never a break
  • To not criticize or judge working mamis because we get a certain joy and purpose from our careers and though some certainly wish we could afford to stay at home with our children, the rest are perfectly happy trying to find a balance that will bring them fulfillment and happiness
  • To keep an open mind with regards to other mamis.  Regardless of the parenting choices they have made because we do not wish to be judged either
  • To support fellow mamis even if we don’t 100% agree with their methods
  • To befriend, support and show compassion for other mamis and to do away with the S cliques that those that are still insecure from high school insist on creating
I, therefore, the author of My Mamihood (of the Universe), along with my fellow bloggers, mami and non-mami readers alike, appealing to the Supreme Judge of the world for the rectitude of our intentions, do, in the name, and by authority of the good people of this internet solemnly publish and declare, that this mamihood is, and our right ought to be free and independent free thinkers that support one another and shed positivity to each one; that they are absolved from all allegiance to cattiness, BS and negative thinking and that all political connection between us and the negative/little people is and ought to be totally dissolved; and that as free and independent mamis, we have the full power to change the world, bring to it peace, raise our children in community, contract alliances, establish commerce and to do all other things that we so choose in peace and with a general understanding that the women around us are there to support our decisions.  And to support this declaration, with a firm reliance on the protection of the divine providence, we mutually pledge to each other our lives, our fortunes and our sacred honor (and occasionally, our dirty diapers).
Pimsleur Swedish

About Sili Recio

Sili is the owner and Chief Executive Mami of Mamihood Media and My Mamihood. Selected as one of Latina Magazine’s top Blogger to Know in 2014 and Latina Magazine’s top 10 Mommy bloggersin 2013, My Mamihood was described as “a haven for fashion inspiration, baby concerns, must read books and even tech musings! This blog will keep you reading for hours…” When not appearing on top 10 lists or speaking passionately about those things she holds near and dear to hear heart, this Afro Latina loves hanging out with her frog princess, helping others, trash talking in her setting up all-girl Fantasy football leagues, reading and finding new gadgets to play with. She is currently punishing herself by pursuing an MBA with a concentration in social media from Southern New Hampshire University on hiatus from school much to the chagrin of her Type A personality.

30 comments

  1. LOVE IT! congrats, mami! so proud of all you do and the smile i feel coming from your posts and comments. you’re awesome.

    • Sili
      Twitter: mymamihood

      Thanks, Kim! I appreciate your support, your sarcasm and your blogs! It’s so nice to be able to forge friendships over our common denominators!

  2. I love it!!! Have the urge to share with every woman I know!! Thank you for writing this!!!

  3. Congrats on hitting 1 yr.
    I just started following you a couple days ago.. I’ve enjoyed what I’ve read so far and will continue reading. Love your theme!

    Thanks for sharing such a positive article with us …

    Deb :)
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  4. Congrats…Its party time. Enjoy your post…keep them coming.

  5. Congrats one your Blogversay…I haven’t been reading too long But I have enjoyed what I’ve read …..As alwaYs XOXOXOXOXOOX
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  6. Very well said, my friend! Love it!
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  7. Love the list! Love the whole post! Congrats on a year!

  8. I so needed those words today. I am off from work because the kids do not have school today. Yet, I get oh so many annoying phone calls from the office, and my kids do not want to do anything I ask them to do. So as I was about to reach the breaking point, I read your article. Thank you! It helped me looked at things differently and put things into perspective.

    I’m always rushing and I truly need to slow down and smell the roses, or my kids sweat!!

    Keep those articles coming! And congrats!!

    • Sili
      Twitter: mymamihood

      Thanks, Margieric! I know it’s hard and some days are just like WTH?! But hang in there. Glad I could help you out today. ;-)

  9. Looking around to see if ‘Men are Allowed’. But as you believe in passing positivity aroundf think i must be safe. Congratulations on reacvhing one year of blogging. You have surpassed 85% of blogs that don’t make it that far. Be proud, be very proud
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    • Sili
      Twitter: mymamihood

      How awful of me to not include men!

      It is most definitely safe! Thanks for your well wishes! And thanks so much for stopping by! You’re like the first guy that didn’t make a child with me to ever post on my blog! :-)

  10. Happy Anniversary! Can’t we all just get along?;)
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  11. This is truly wonderful. You are funny, thoughtful, sincere and inspiring all at the same time. Here’s a warm hug on your Mamiversary…and wishes for many more to come.
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  12. Asolutely!
    In from SITS!
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  13. Fabulous! I love that this was written with the accumulated wisdom of a year of blogging; congrats to you and I’m looking forward to reading more!
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  14. I pink puffy heart this post so much I cannot even stand it!! :) I came over from SITS, and I am so glad I did! You basically said in one post everything I blog about, everything I believe, my life’s motto!! I love it!!! Great work here!
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  15. Lady, I will pledge you my dirty diapers any day! :) This is an absolutely fantastic post – I am in LOVE with the Mamifesto!
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  16. So nice to visit your place! Happy SITSDay to you!
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  17. Sounds like you had a great blogeversary. Congrats! I hope mine is that great next year!
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  18. So happy SITS helped me discover your blog! Love your style!
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  19. We should all have to take that oath with our first children. Happy SITS day, belated! I want to check out that movie Motherhood now.
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