Tuesday , 21 October 2014

I Wish She’d Had More Birthdays

Every year for the last 7 or so, I’ve participated in the Relay for Life.  I loved the idea of doing something to help others, enjoyed the events because it gave me a chance to pull together a team of friends, join for a common cause and generally have a great time at the overnight events.  And so, this became part of my yearly to do list which I very much looked forward to.

My dad was diagnosed with stage II Laryngeal cancer in September of 2007.  And the relay had a different meaning for me. But, the odds were good and after 29 days of radiation, it was as if it’d never happened.  He’s been cancer-free ever since and has had more birthdays since.

After that, I met the frog princess’s dad.  He is a survivor of a pheochromocytoma. He’d been in a coma for 6 days before the doctors found out what was wrong and he remained in a coma for 6 weeks.  And the relay had a different meaning for me.  Malignant pheo’s are rare and the survival rate at 5 years is 48%.  But he has been cancer-free since 2004 and has had more birthdays since.

Then, on April 6th, 2010, mami was diagnosed. I remember that the relay certainly had a different meaning for me that May.  Because it seemed that we were fighting a different animal this time.  We had a 10-month battle with cholangiocarcinoma.  We all fought.  We all prayed.  We thought we had a chance even though this type of cancer has a very low rate of survival.  In the end, Randall (it’s what we called the tumor) got the best of her.  We don’t say that he won because she is pain-free and in heaven now so the joke’s on him!

Mami died 4 days before she turned 65.  And oh, I wish she’d had more birthdays!  I will once again sign up for our relay for life this coming spring.  Because I want to make sure that YOU and I have more birthdays. Do you participate in a local Relay?



This post is sponsored by American Cancer Society.

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About Sili

Sili is the owner and Chief Executive Mami of Mamihood Media and My Mamihood. Selected as one of Latina Magazine’s top Blogger to Know in 2014 and Latina Magazine’s top 10 Mommy bloggersin 2013, My Mamihood was described as “a haven for fashion inspiration, baby concerns, must read books and even tech musings! This blog will keep you reading for hours…” When not appearing on top 10 lists or speaking passionately about those things she holds near and dear to hear heart, this Afro Latina loves hanging out with her frog princess, helping others, trash talking in her setting up all-girl Fantasy football leagues, reading and finding new gadgets to play with. She is currently punishing herself by pursuing an MBA with a concentration in social media from Southern New Hampshire University on hiatus from school much to the chagrin of her Type A personality.

8 comments

  1. Relay for Life is a wonderful cause; so proud of you for taking part in this!
    Blessings!
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  2. Your Mom will be so proud of you, Sili!

  3. A wonderful cause and no doubt your mother will be looking down and watching you with much love.
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    • Sili
      Twitter: mymamihood

      Thanks, Savy! It’s tough but I will be heading out there next year. This year it was too difficult and too fresh. It also took place mother’s day weekend. It was all a bit too much for me even though I did raise a good amount of money for it.

      oxoxox

  4. Wonderful cause…..hugs.

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