My Life


Mami Goes to Disney
May 02, 2016

Mami Goes to Disney

I got a little pixie dust in my inbox a while back. I was very surprised by it. My friends had started to get pixie dusted and I am always ridiculously ecstatic for them. You might be asking: what is pixie dust? It’s an email with this header: That means you’ve been invited to attend a really cool conference for social media-minded moms and dads. It’s happening this week folks. This. Week. You know how much I love Disney. Don’t you? Don’t you?!? I was super humbled to have received the invite.......

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The Hair I Wear
April 27, 2016

The Hair I Wear

A long, long time ago. In a land far, far away… So begins my hairytale. No, that’s not a typo. We’re talking hair today. My hair. Maybe even my people’s hair. But I haven’t decided all of that yet. For as long as I can remember, folks had told me I had “bad” hair. “Greña” they called it. “Pajon” they teased. It might not have been intended (not everyone, anyway) but words from a tender age categorized my hair, and therefore me, into the “unwanted” category. In Dominican Republic, they call me......

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5 Prince Quotes That Give You Life

I was leaving an in-person meeting and jumping on a conference call meeting when someone casually mentioned a rumor. I jumped on the book of faces and asked folks to update me as I’d been away from the interwebs for a few hours. As more and more folks shared the same information, I was still in disbelief and put my disbelief out there for the world to see. Of course, we now know it is true. I spent the day kinda numb. Focusing on work and calls and the to do list.......

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Kelly green struggle sling

I had a dream. It started with a shoe. I was going to my sorority’s founders’ day celebration and I had just found the perfect pink dress. In my mind, I began to look for Kelly green heels. I imagined they’d be sling backs. Pointy toed and pretty to perfectly embody all of the pink and green-ness that I was feeling. I’m notorious for running in, seeing perfection and running back out. It’s my favorite way to shop because I don’t exactly enjoy it otherwise. It’s how I found the Calvin Klein......

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Saying Yes...
April 12, 2016

Saying Yes…

Some days, I dislike my best friend. Like, when she’s sitting there pontificating. Granted, I asked for her opinion but still! How dare she! How dare she be all “let me challenge you”? MADAM! I need you to sit here and wallow in the sorrow with me. This is what I need. Shake your head and tell me you hear me! Don’t be tryna elevate me! I lie. I needed this chat. Needed Robi in my space. With her calm ass demeanor telling me that she wants me to write about one......

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43 Things I Was Thinking About Instead of Sleeping

I’ve been battling a bit of insomnia. Last night, fed up with the ridiculousness of my brain not shutting off, I decided to pick up my phone and just write down everything that was running through my brain. I started writing this list at 2:38 a.m. and this is the stream of consciousness that followed. I have to finish collecting tax docs to send to accountant. Who sent me a 1099 for $822? Why can’t actual company names be listed on 1099s (that’ll match invoices)?  When will I get this house organized? I......

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“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” - Maya Angelou
March 01, 2016

The Things She Carried

I had some time to think this past weekend. It doesn’t happen often. I find myself going from one thing to the next all the while trying to be the best Mami that I can. It gets exhausting when I can’t catch a break. Those moments when my body catches up and I can sit in my family room, aimlessly watching a movie or taking a long shower without having to worry about how long I’m in there or what I have to get done when I get out? They are precious......

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On Grief: Five Years Later
February 23, 2016

On Grief: Five Years Later

I’m slightly pissed off. Mami’s anniversary came and went and while I felt soft around the edges, vulnerable and slightly off balance, I managed to keep it together. The wave never hit and I thought “hey, maybe this year it won’t.” Twenty fucking days later it does. Photograph did it. I listen to nothing but Christian music while in the car. Except that lately, I’ve been wanting to give the kid a feel of something else and have started flipping stations. Related Post: Denial or Deliverance Ed Sheeran’s song caught me from the......

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Joyful Grief
February 02, 2016

Joyful Grief

Grief has taught me to allow myself time and space. But I don’t always listen. When I don’t, it is made on my behalf and memories flood my soul and I see images through the filter of time and love…5 years ago, I was waiting on my sister to come home as I counted my mother’s breaths. I was still nursing and I recall Elena trying to play her tapping game with Mami. Except she didn’t yell in the mock pain that made Elena giggle. I remember Robiaun on the phone asking......

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Not So Merry & Bright

Tiny pumpkin breads. That was my trigger this week. I baked a batch of them and it took me down memory lane. I recall my girlfriend bringing a little loaf of pumpkin bread to my mom and I on that last “good” stay at the hospital. She loved it, as did I. It was December. The stay where they told us the tumor had started growing again and there was nothing that could be done. The time when I had to hold my Mami’s hand and tell her there was nothing that......

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