My Mamihood http://mymamihood.com Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness! Wed, 04 Mar 2015 04:38:32 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.1.1 Time and Being Present {#Mamis40to40} http://mymamihood.com/2015/03/02/time-and-being-present/ http://mymamihood.com/2015/03/02/time-and-being-present/#comments Mon, 02 Mar 2015 16:40:57 +0000 http://mymamihood.com/?p=9073 (I wrote this on my phone as I was boarding my plane in Houston, at approximately some hour which I do not recall)   It is all about time. What we’ve spent, what we are eating up, what we might not have.   These last few months, as I have struggled to create more space ...

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(I wrote this on my phone as I was boarding my plane in Houston, at approximately some hour which I do not recall)

 

It is all about time. What we’ve spent, what we are eating up, what we might not have.

 

These last few months, as I have struggled to create more space for peace, I have been failing to be as present as I’d like to be. It’s the problem with working at home. At least in part. It is also the fact that I have lived under the delusion that I can do it all. Which inevitably reminds me of Oprah’s quote:

"You can have it all. Just not all at once." - Oprah

I think  if I had to do a spin on that quote, I’d say that recently I realized: You can do it all, you just not all at once.

 

And so I downshifted this past week for a few days. Truth be told, there wasn’t a ton of Vegas-like behavior. I enjoyed days filled with food, friendship and a little shopping.

 

On my last day in Vegas, I read about Oren’s passing and reread this post regarding his diagnosis.

 

That post broke my heart all over again but also served as a reminder to put things down definitively so I am better able to appreciate what I pick up next.

 

Hope all that made sense. I’m typing this from the boarding line in Houston and the subsequent wait in my seat on the plane.

 

I’m tired and need a nap (who’s idea was it to create red eyes?). But when I get home, I plan on taking a bath, taking a nap and taking the time to be present.

 

Tell me, is your time sufficient or do you always feel like you need more?

 

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Patricia’s Speech & False Solidarity http://mymamihood.com/2015/02/23/patricias-speech-false-solidarity/ http://mymamihood.com/2015/02/23/patricias-speech-false-solidarity/#comments Mon, 23 Feb 2015 15:24:13 +0000 http://mymamihood.com/?p=9062 I was hard at work during the Oscars last night thanks to a Redbull and the lack o’ organization in my office. While I worked away, social media buzzed in the background. I was happy to hear when Patricia Arquette, honored for her work in Boyhood, mentioned equal pay. I mean, what woman wouldn’t love ...

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I was hard at work during the Oscars last night thanks to a Redbull and the lack o’ organization in my office. While I worked away, social media buzzed in the background. I was happy to hear when Patricia Arquette, honored for her work in Boyhood, mentioned equal pay. I mean, what woman wouldn’t love that, amirite?

“To every woman who gave birth to every tax payer and citizen of this nation, we have fought for everybody else’s equal rights. It’s our time to have wage equality once and for all, and equal rights for women in the United States of America.”

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In the distance, as I prepared for the week I thought “good”. And then, the real shit hit the proverbial fan.

If this was a children’s book, it might be called Patricia and her patronizing ways. In the press room Patricia continued. I am going to say that perhaps, still high from the rush of seeing Meryl woop at her speech and two or three shots of celebratory liquor on her way to the press room influenced what she said next. I mean, I hope it did. Because, y’all. How do you explain this?

“It’s time for women. Equal means equal. The truth is the older women get, the less money they make. The highest percentage of children living in poverty are in female-headed households. It’s inexcusable that we go around the world and we talk about equal rights for women in other countries and we don’t. One of those superior court justices said two years ago in a law speech at a university that we don’t have equal rights for women in America and we don’t because when they wrote Constitution, they didn’t intend it for women. So the truth is even though we sort of feel like we have equal rights in America right under the surface there are huge issues at play that really do affect women. It’s time for all the women in America, and all the men that love women and all the gay people and all the people of color that we’ve all fought for to fight for us now.”

I HAZ questions! When did Patricia fight for the gay people and the people of color? Did I miss this memo? Let me find out my mail hasn’t been forwarded after I changed my address!

Also, didn’t this speech start with the whole equality thing? Are there no women in the “gay people and people of color” world that she just presented to us? You got some ‘splaining to do!

This morning I flashed back to #SolidarityIsForWhiteWomen because this is a perfect representation of what folks were trying to bring to light with that hashtag.

Madam! I don’t owe you shit! I’ve been out here with my sleeves rolled up trying to do the work so that WE CAN ALL have equal pay, equal rights, equal justice. For her to imply that somehow she needs MY help to make sure that she lives further within her privilege because some how I owe it to her is simply absurd.

Solidarity is for white women, indeed, Patricia. Carry on with your pretty dress and your privilege.

I am having a minor rant in order for me to purge this out of my system and have a productive day. Did you catch the Oscars last night? What did you think of this speech?

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Of Friends and Fashion: What to Pack for Vegas http://mymamihood.com/2015/02/20/what-to-pack-for-vegas/ http://mymamihood.com/2015/02/20/what-to-pack-for-vegas/#comments Fri, 20 Feb 2015 16:26:41 +0000 http://mymamihood.com/?p=9046 I head to Vegas next week. There, the birthday celebrations will kick off with my two very bestest friends in the whole wide world. These are the women that will talk me down from a ledge, the ones that define “ride or die”. The chicks that would help me hide the body. Do you have ...

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I head to Vegas next week. There, the birthday celebrations will kick off with my two very bestest friends in the whole wide world. These are the women that will talk me down from a ledge, the ones that define “ride or die”. The chicks that would help me hide the body. Do you have these friends? Because I certainly do! (Truth be told, I think like half of y’all would help me hide the body just for fun. Y’all play too much!)

My two friends have NEVER been in the same room together. So this trip is extra exciting. I’m glad to be launching my #Mamis40to40 experience with these two.

This weekend I will attempt to put together what I’ll be wearing. So I asked Dr. Dreadlocks (aka Sybil) what plans we have so I can pack. This chick says the following words to me: zombie apocalypse paintball experience.

This is one of the cranes in my neighborhood. He let me come close and take pics. I call him Larry.
This is one of the cranes in my neighborhood. He let me come close and take pics. I call him Larry.

MADAM! What do I wear to kill zombies? And you guys know I already have an anxiety about this due to the fact that I know I’m not in shape to be a winner since I’d have to carry the Frog Princess should the zombie apocalypse come upon us!

And what in the hell is a voodoo zip line?!

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Larry was wondering why I was all up in his face!

Of course, it is my fault because I should know better than to have allowed the woman that goes cliff diving to make plans! #HelpMeHoseah

Which leads me to: what should I pack?! Can my luggage just be Pope-fied because I need someone to handle this business!

Which leads me to my list of things that I think I should have. And by list, I mean pins.

Something to walk around in. Though I’m not entirely sure the hat will fit the head.
This is very “I will kill zombies NOW”. Of course, I’ll have to put my purse down while I commence the handling.
Something for poolside.

 

This might be an option. What do you think?
I LOVE this! I need this dress!
Is this not adorable? It looks like me, amirite?!

My goal is simple. Wear clothes that make me feel great. And make sure I wear comfortable clothes when zip lining and killing zombies.

Any suggestions for what to wear? Leave me links in the comments!

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2015 Mitsubishi Mirage: Mami Likes! http://mymamihood.com/2015/02/17/2015-mitsubishi-mirage/ http://mymamihood.com/2015/02/17/2015-mitsubishi-mirage/#comments Tue, 17 Feb 2015 15:09:37 +0000 http://mymamihood.com/?p=9018 I walked out to see a red Mirage parked in my driveway. I wasn’t too sure about it. It looked small. I drive a sports SUV so I’m used to smaller but, I wasn’t convinced. Then I got the tour and I started thinking “okay, I see you!”. My mind was completely changed once I dropped ...

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I walked out to see a red Mirage parked in my driveway. I wasn’t too sure about it. It looked small. I drive a sports SUV so I’m used to smaller but, I wasn’t convinced. Then I got the tour and I started thinking “okay, I see you!”.

My mind was completely changed once I dropped 2 car seats in it. The girls (the Frog Princess and her BFF) loved the ride and I forgot about what I thought when I first laid eyes on it.

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There was enough room in the middle for bags and such. I will say that I have some pretty big seats, though. I was pretty impressed at the space in the back.

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And to give you perspective, I got my grocery shopping on and had more than enough room.

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We went on a road trip with friends and had a great time. The girls couldn’t stop talking about how “fabulous” the car was and I couldn’t get over the mileage and the comfort I found. Yes, I had totally changed my mind by the end of the week and I may or may not have tried to keep the car for longer.

Yes, our road trip was to Disney. Complete with ice cream!
Comfy in the car. I loved that the interior felt so roomy and comfortable.

 

I loved that it was a 5-door. And it didn’t ride like a small car (though I’m not entirely sure what a small car rides like). I got good pickup, not that I was speeding or anything and if I did, I was testing the car, people! And I generally felt safe and like I was in a really neat car. Which is important. Cool factor when you’re a Mami and your kid is in love with the car you’re driving.

All in all, I really enjoyed this car. It was comfortable and fun. It starts at $12,995 though I had all the bells and whistles and still came in at $16,295.

 I loved having GPS and I loved the feeling that I was still in a new vehicle without the price tag.

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Of course, now the frog princess keeps asking me when the cool red car is coming back. I wonder the same thing, frog princess.

I was loaned this vehicle in order to facilitate this post. All opinions, shenanigans and good times are purely my own.

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Organizada in 2015! http://mymamihood.com/2015/02/16/organizada-2015-blogger-planner/ http://mymamihood.com/2015/02/16/organizada-2015-blogger-planner/#comments Mon, 16 Feb 2015 19:49:23 +0000 http://mymamihood.com/?p=8996 I’ve been working on loads of stuff. Half of which I can’t remember! But now, I created a tool for myself to keep me organizada (organized). Last year I gave y’all an electronic version but after much deliberation and back and forth, I’m giving you a beautiful, 6×9 planner to keep you organized for years ...

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I’ve been working on loads of stuff. Half of which I can’t remember! But now, I created a tool for myself to keep me organizada (organized). Last year I gave y’all an electronic version but after much deliberation and back and forth, I’m giving you a beautiful, 6×9 planner to keep you organized for years to come!

Ain’t it purty?! With features like month-at-a-glance, social shares tracking and income and expenses, you will have everything you need to organize your awesome!

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40 Days Till 40 {#Mamis40to40} http://mymamihood.com/2015/02/15/40-days-till-40/ http://mymamihood.com/2015/02/15/40-days-till-40/#comments Sun, 15 Feb 2015 16:03:37 +0000 http://mymamihood.com/?p=8819 With 40 more days until my birthday, I want to issue a challenge to friends near and far. I am not planning a big birthday bash (this is your hint to start planning a surprise party for me STAT, folks). But the thing about parties is that you never get the one-on-one time with all ...

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With 40 more days until my birthday, I want to issue a challenge to friends near and far. I am not planning a big birthday bash (this is your hint to start planning a surprise party for me STAT, folks). But the thing about parties is that you never get the one-on-one time with all the people that come out to celebrate.

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Me at 4. Don’t I look like I’m ready to get it in and party? This is how I’m feeling at 40! Some things never change.

What I am proposing is simple: I’d like to see as many friends as possible in the next 40 days. It can be for coffee, for dinner, a Skype call, whatever. I want to see you, talk to you and catch up. During that time I want to ask you a few questions (that may or may not be recorded). Questions like: how did we meet? How long have you known me? What can you say about me (this is free where you will pledge your undying love and willingness to help me bury the body, if need be. Or you can tell me you love my shoe style, whatever floats your boat)? What’s your birthday wish for me?

 

If you have pics of us that you want to share on social or comments, questions, concerns, well wishes, Instagram video, lotto numbers, etc feel free to use the #Mamis40to40 hashtag.

Deal? Who’s in?

(PS: I’m deathly afraid that no one will respond to this but I’m learning that in order to receive, I need to be more vulnerable. Something I learned in my first 40 years. Pretty neat, eh?)

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19 Free Valentine’s Day Fonts http://mymamihood.com/2015/02/10/19-free-valentines-day-fonts/ http://mymamihood.com/2015/02/10/19-free-valentines-day-fonts/#comments Tue, 10 Feb 2015 15:38:26 +0000 http://mymamihood.com/?p=8814 It never fails! I am always running around at the last minute making Valentine’s Day cards. For my friends, you ask? No. For the Frog Princess and her class. Because nothing says I love you like frantic searches for heart shaped things that aren’t candy or cookies the night before you’re supposed to deliver them. ...

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It never fails! I am always running around at the last minute making Valentine’s Day cards. For my friends, you ask? No. For the Frog Princess and her class. Because nothing says I love you like frantic searches for heart shaped things that aren’t candy or cookies the night before you’re supposed to deliver them. And because I’m all type A, I always want beautiful swirly heart-shaped fonts. I’m a step ahead this year and I’m helping y’all out.

And…this is a poem I wrote EONS ago. I thought I’d share some prose along with the pretty fonts. You’re welcome!

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1. True Stories | 2. DJB Jacked Up | 3. Emily’s Candy | 4. Loverboy | 5. Vanessa’s Valentine | 6. MC Sweetie Hearts | 7. Fiolex Girls | 8. Janda Swirly Twirly | 9. I Love What You Do | 10. Lavanderia regular | 11. Cookie Monster | 12. KB Bonjour Sweetheart | 13. Fool For Love | 14. Love Letters | 15. Jellyka Love & Passion | 16. Dinosaurs Are Alive | 17. Cute Love | 18. Gust of Wind | 19. Vbdings Two

I’m working on a Sway for all my fonts. Don’t know what I Sway is? Well, I guess you’ll have to come back and find out, eh? (sign up to get updates via email)

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How Do You Bring Out Your Inner Child? http://mymamihood.com/2015/02/05/bring-inner-child/ http://mymamihood.com/2015/02/05/bring-inner-child/#comments Thu, 05 Feb 2015 14:17:38 +0000 http://mymamihood.com/?p=8801 I found myself giddy with excitement when I grabbed my mail, threw it in the car and made titi Q open the box. What could it be? I wasn’t expecting any samples for review? Well, let me tell you! It was a box that made me deliciously happy. Don’t ask me why but, I got ...

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I found myself giddy with excitement when I grabbed my mail, threw it in the car and made titi Q open the box. What could it be? I wasn’t expecting any samples for review? Well, let me tell you! It was a box that made me deliciously happy. Don’t ask me why but, I got giddy when my new Magic Bands came in the mail.

We finally renewed our annual passes to Disney World and this means new Magic Bands. The techy girl inside of me does the shoulder shimmy and possibly the moonwalk every time I check out the awesomeness that I can rock on my wrist. I decided to grab a new color (yellow) and the Frog Princess decided on blue because…#Elsa.

My freak out moment happened without the kid in the car which prompted this video and question: how do you bring out your inner child while raising a child of your own?

How do you bring out your inner child?

Watch and then tell me!

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Privilege by Proxy: “White People Sports” and The Validation Of the Oppressor http://mymamihood.com/2015/02/04/privilege-proxy-white-people-sports-validation-oppressor/ http://mymamihood.com/2015/02/04/privilege-proxy-white-people-sports-validation-oppressor/#comments Wed, 04 Feb 2015 16:11:24 +0000 http://mymamihood.com/?p=8794 I told myself I was taking a break from heavy stuff this week. But as in the godfather, someone always drags me back in. I was giddy yesterday to get a chance to watch the video clip of my mentor (sshhh, don’t tell her. I’m keeping it a surprise), Denene. There she was on the ...

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I told myself I was taking a break from heavy stuff this week. But as in the godfather, someone always drags me back in.

I was giddy yesterday to get a chance to watch the video clip of my mentor (sshhh, don’t tell her. I’m keeping it a surprise), Denene. There she was on the Meredith Viera show in all her shoeologist splendor!White-People-Sports

It was a great segment with a mom panel being asked their perspective on a couple of subjects. All good, right? Not so fast.

The shit hits the fan (at least for me) around 3:15 when the question is posed as to whether or not the moms on the panel would let their children play football considering the potential for injury. Carolina Bermudez, a New York radio deejay makes a comment that still makes me cringe.

“My son is half half Latino, half white and I want him to gravitate towards the white sports. I want him to play tennis,  I’m going to give him a racket, golf…”

You see Denene’s epic side eye as she names black people that play the sports that Carolina is mentioning? I want to tell you that I do not know where I was when Denene was standing in line and God was handing out patience and poise. I’m thinking I was getting coffee. This is probably why I can’t have nice things, like bomb shoes and invitations to be on television. She held it together on screen and gave it to us on My Brown Baby today.

Y’all, I don’t know how to come at this. The statement reeked of this privilege by proxy that so many Latinos are prone to. I recall  my best friend being told that she had to marry a light skinned man to “better the blood”. The fact that this was said on national television by a Latina who obviously has a social following and fan base…talk about disappointment.

First of all, the initial question was thrown to the side. The question was clearly about football and really it was about contact sports. The fact that this person equates football with, let’s say…non-white and somehow that tennis and golf become the sport that she wants her “half Latino” son to play because…why exactly?

Mel B (Scary Spice) makes a comment about Carolina’s statement and it is clearly waved aside. Moreover, Carolina took to Twitter to dismiss and belittle the comments from people who were offended by her statement. Telling folks to “get over it” and it was just a joke.

I’m tired of the damn jokes, Carolina! I’m tired of the ignorance from my own people. It’s sad that you see nothing wrong with what you said. It’s not even about an apology. It’s about the fact that you don’t seem to get it. This is self-hatred at its best whether you see it like that or not.

Can someone get me the pivot table where I can clearly see the detailed sports to race combination so I get it right? Wanting your son to gravitate towards “the white sports”? Because the white sports are good, is that what it is? And then the black sports are…and what about the Latino sports?

This privilege by proxy in the Latino community needs to stop. Having a child with a white man doesn’t transfer his white privilege to you. And perpetuating the narrative that sports that have traditionally been associated with privilege and with the exclusion of people of color makes you just as bad as the folks who tried that.

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This IS important! The fact that she trivializes her statement, attempts to say that it was a joke and then dismisses folks who are offended by it is ludicrous. That “joke” is heard behind closed doors every day. That “joke” is what keeps ugly commentaries from continuing.

And the worst part is that by having someone on national television, a Latina at that, making that type of statement, the folks with those centuries-old beliefs and racists views receive that as confirmation that they’ve been right all along. And THAT’S what hurts the most. That the joke is in juxtaposition with how things should be. And from where I stand, it’s not funny at all.

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Easy Ways to Save Money On Travel http://mymamihood.com/2015/01/30/easy-ways-to-save-money-on-travel/ http://mymamihood.com/2015/01/30/easy-ways-to-save-money-on-travel/#comments Fri, 30 Jan 2015 17:18:34 +0000 http://mymamihood.com/?p=8779 I’m SO excited today. And not even about my stuff. I’m excited for my girl Tawanna, queen of the cruises, boss of the beaches, princess of the planes! This is the girl I bombard with my crazy ideas. The chick I text late at night with “let me ask you something?” and then go into ...

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I’m SO excited today. And not even about my stuff. I’m excited for my girl Tawanna, queen of the cruises, boss of the beaches, princess of the planes! This is the girl I bombard with my crazy ideas. The chick I text late at night with “let me ask you something?” and then go into my barrage of whatever new plot I’ve come up with to take over the world.

Moms Guide to Saving Money on Family TravelBut now, I get to stop asking her questions about travel and just scoop up my copy of Mom’s Guide to Saving Money on Family Travel and BAM! I’m ready to roll. This is what I’m using to plan the epic travels of my 40th year.

  • Learn which airlines charge you extra for luggage.
  • Understand how passport fees work and add up.
  • Discover which travel shows to attend for deep travel discounts.
  • Learn how to stay on top of flash sales for flights and hotels.
  • Learn how to set up a fool-proof travel savings plan.

I know so many of us that haven’t taken vacation. Like, not just sitting at home in your yoga pants while the office thinks you’re on vacay. A true “ohmaigaah, look I have pictures of me in a place other than my hometown” vacay.

And not only will you be doing something for your family’s mental health, you’ll be doing something for the Make-A-Wish foundation. Here’s what Tawanna had to say:

“This book was written specifically for families who want to learn different ways that they can save on travel costs so that they can vacation more. Grab a copy for yourself or a friend. We’re paying it forward and donating a portion of the proceeds to the Make-A-Wish foundation to help grant another critically-ill child like our Asad, their travel wish this year.”

Isn’t that awesome? Okay go getchu a copy of Mom’s Guide to Saving Money on Family Travel and let’s plan on where we’re going this year!

Oh and, let’s giveaway one of these, shall we? Enter below and tell your friends!

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