In order to learn to truly understand and accept your child, it is not enough to read a couple of books on conscious parenting. Typically, parents have to work on their beliefs and reconsider the very principles upon which family interaction was based. These are the foundations on which the conscious parenting method is based.

Deepen your perception of your child.
It’s important to learn to see and accept the inner self, rather than paying attention only to his appearance and behavior. Try to perceive your child on a deeper level, try to understand his personality and inner world.

Learn to listen
Learn to talk less and listen more. Try to understand what the child feels when he is trying to tell you something. Be more attentive and ask questions more often so you can better understand his point of view.

This principle will also help your child become more relaxed – they will gradually learn to express their thoughts and feelings more freely, and their ability to self-reflect will also increase.

Be polite
The way in which you communicate with your children will determine their behavior and communication with the world around them in the future. If you communicate as an adult, show them respect, and give them the opportunity to be themselves, they will later be able to interact with others from the position of an adult, a reasonable person, capable of respecting others and their opinions. This skill can be passed down from generation to generation.

Know how to forgive
Mistakes are made by children and adults alike. Instead of punishing them, try to help the child understand what they did wrong so they can do things differently in the future. When a parent knows how to forgive, he or she instills this skill in the child by example.

Forgiveness – the best prevention of self-destruction, because accumulated negative emotions in the form of anger, frustration, resentment can greatly harm the personality and even cause psychosomatic disorders. Feelings of guilt paralyzes the human will, while responsibility for their actions strengthens self-confidence and gives determination.

Be empathetic.
Instead of immediately react emotionally to the actions of the child, try to pause and think about how you would behave in his/her place. When parents know how to control their emotions and show sensitivity and consideration to others, the child begins to trust them more and more. In the future, if he has problems, it will be easier for him to ask his parents for help, knowing that he will be accepted, listened to and will not cause a scandal.

Set long term goals
You need to learn how to deal with their negative emotions, not once, but on a permanent basis. Talk about awareness is easy, but to be able to cope with yourself when children do not listen and do not comply with the agreements, it can be very difficult. Set long-term goals for your children and yourself, and try to continually improve your interaction skills with your child.

Respect the interests of others
It happens that parents, when choosing something for the child, proceed from their own interests. These can range from little things like everyday shopping to more serious things like choosing a club, college, profession, or partner. Instead of imposing your opinion, it is better to follow the child’s interests, to help him find and develop his abilities. This way he will have many more opportunities to realize in life. So encourage curiosity, talk about what your child likes and why.

Lead by example
Children in many ways copy and broadcast the behavior of adults – both desirable and undesirable. So the qualities that you would like to develop in them, first of all, you need to bring up in yourself. Become a good example and be consistent in your words and actions. For example, you can not teach the child to be calm, if you yourself behave emotionally and unrestrained.

Delegate responsibilities
Give the child the opportunity from childhood to participate in the family business, give him tasks that are within his power. This way you will contribute to the development of responsibility, independence, give the child the opportunity to feel like an important family member. Praise for their success and performance, encourage them for their help.

In this case, do not forget to monitor your expectations in relation to the work performed, avoid exaggerated demands and excessive criticism and tutelage. Help if the child asks for help or advice, but otherwise let the child do things his or her own way.

Create a loving and supportive environment
Safe and peaceful environment in the home can create only unconditional love for all family members. Feeling the love and acceptance of loved ones, the child will be easier to endure difficult situations. In addition, children who grow up in a welcoming and positive environment are much less susceptible to negative influences outside the home.

A safe family environment contributes to a more favorable mental development of children, and displays of aggression, discontent, condemnation, on the contrary, provoke the development of complexes, phobias, neuroses, inhibit the development of their psyche.